Jennifer Senior
Columnist and Book Critic, The New York Times
All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood
Back in 1942, anthropologist Margaret Mead noticed something intriguing about America’s parents: The subject of childrearing — so uncomplicated in other countries and settings — left them feeling anxious, unstrung, and vulnerable to fads. More than 70 years later, parents are still grappling with these same feelings of uncertainty.
The Family Action Network (FAN) launches its 2014-15 speaker series with Jennifer Senior, a New York City-based journalist and best-selling author. Her very first book, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood, debuted at #6 on the New York Times bestseller list in early 2014. The book tapped into a deep well of parental ambivalence that isn’t often discussed: the effects of children on parents – their marriages, jobs, friendships, lifestyles, and mental health. Modern parenting, stripped of gooey sentiment and magical thinking, is a high-investment, competitive, demanding activity – it’s a verb, a lot of “doing,” and a parent is often judged by the performance of the child. It’s “no fun,” and it stands in contrast to parenthood, which has more to do with “being” a parent – how we feel as parents, and what meaning we forge from the experience.
In this talk, Ms. Senior will explore some of the unseen forces that are making parents so anxious, including the historic transformation of the child’s role; the liberating-yet-confusing introduction of personal choice; and dramatic changes to how we live and work. She guides parents in seeing that their challenges, which they so often assume are of their own making, are in fact part of a much larger socio- economic-cultural picture, and that they are by no means struggling alone. She will discuss what can be done to think differently about raising children, examining the distinction between happiness and joy, and will shed light on why most parents still say that raising children is the meaningful thing that they’ll ever do.
Upcoming Events
Year of the Monkey: An Evening with Patti Smith
Patti Smith
Writer, performer, and visual artist
Evanston Township High School Auditorium
Live streaming video of this event will be available, beginning at 7:00 PM, on the ETHS Wildkits YouTube Live Stream channel.
Special thanks to DJ Jeff Pazen for pre- and post-event music!
The Power of Human: How Our Shared Humanity Can Help Us Create a Better World
Adam Waytz, Ph.D.
Associate Professor of Management and Organizations at Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management.
North Shore Country Day School Auditorium
The Great Juggling Act: Balancing Life as a Parent
Julie Morgenstern
Time-management and productivity specialist, and author of Organizing from the Inside Out, Never Check Email in the Morning, SHED Your Stuff, Change Your Life, and the brand-new Time to Parent: Organizing Your Life to Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You
New Trier High School, Northfield Campus, Cornog Auditorium